THE ART OF BEING A LADY | Find Value in Your Solitude

When I sit back and truly take inventory of my personality traits I realize that I have an even mix of both introverted and extroverted characteristics.  I enjoy spending time amongst family, friends, and at crowded festivals yet I value my alone time as well.

I do my best thinking and brainstorming when I’m alone- truly alone.  No phone, television, books, or music.  When I am alone, I’m able to get to know myself, however, between my fulltime work schedule, my blogging schedule, the need to connect with readers online and of course running my household, finding a few precious moments in solitude has become increasingly difficult.

The Art of Being A Lady- Value Your Solitude- THAT IT GIRL

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There are many benefits to periodic alone time including increased concentration, problem-solving ability, and increased self awareness.

Solitude is one of those gifts that is hard to come by and that very few people know how to make use of.  Even when alone, we are always connected to our devices or the television making the opportunity to self reflect and reboot scarce so I’ve come up with 4 easy ways to work a healthy dose of solitude into your everyday life.

  1. Wake up early.  Rising 10-15 minutes before the rest of your household is a great way to collect and prepare yourself before the day starts.
  2. Maximize your lunch break.  You already spend the entire day with your coworkers so utilize your lunch break as a break from everyone.  Remove yourself from your immediate work environment and enjoy your midday meal deeply immersed in your inner thoughts.
  3. Unplug yourself.  Remove all distractions when you’ve entered your place of solitude.  That means no laptops, tablets, or television.  Learn to enjoy silence sounds like without the influence of outside disturbances.
  4. Ask for privacy.  Those who truly love you will respect your need for alone time so don’t be afraid to let those who surround you know when you are in need of solitude.

How do you find ways to be alone?  Leave a comment and lets discuss.

  • Love this post! Thanks for sharing. Your blog is amazing #BLMgirl

  • Tarah-Lynn

    After I get home from ANY place, I have to have some “me” time — even if it’s just laying down for a bit. I too am a mix of introvert and extrovert!

  • Kay T

    I relate to this on many levels. I learned to take a few minutes to myself to either read or journal. Those two things help relax my mind and allow my thoughts to flow freely. I will also take my alone time to take myself to lunch and people watch. That doesn’t happen as often as I’d like but when it does it’s perfection.

    loved the post!

  • I absolutely LOVEEEE this post… I’m a stickler for waking up early to get my quiet time in and right before bed! I definitely take a few moments to regroup by unplugging even if it just for a moment but we ALL need moments to ourselves… There’s no better time than time with oneself!

    Thanks for sharing… I thoroughly enjoyed this post!