One would think that the steps needed to become That IT Girl are long and complicated, but I beg to differ. It is not about how much time it takes. It is about dilligence, dedication, and replacing bad habits with good ones.
Inner Beauty: “It is nearly impossible to become That IT Girl if you have not yet taken care of your emotional and spiritual wellbeing. No amount of clothing, make-up, or poise can make up for an ugly inside.”
Spend time focusing on all of the positive aspects of your life and reflect on everything you have to be thankful for.
- Always try to have a great attitude and be confident.
- Compliment other women throughout the day. We need to uplift each other and acknowledge other women who are “carrying themselves” well.
- Do not forget about your posture. Lack of good posture can make you look frumpy.
- Do not keep your head down when walking. Walk your eyes forward and head high.
- When speaking to people, smile and maintain direct eye contact. This promotes warmth, sincerity, and will make you look confident.
Time is Ticking: “There are only 24 hours in the day. Make every second count!”
- Get up at least an hour early to give yourself time for your morning routine.
- Take at least an 20-30 minutes before bedtime to pick out and iron your clothes/work uniform and choose your makeup for the next day. Take this time to also pack your purse, and fix your lunch so that you do not have to worry about it in the morning.
- Do not wake up 30 minutes before you have to be at work and expect to walk out of the house looking put together.
- Where you do not have time, spend the extra money. Where you do not have money, spend the extra time.
Personal Hygeine: “Cleanliness is next to GODliness…enough said!”
- Brush your teeth at least twice a day, and after meals, floss your teeth a minimum of once a day, and visit your dentist every 6 months. Many people use mouthwash on a regular basis, but I advise that you use this sparingly. Most mouthwash contains alcohol which can dry your mouth out and increase bad breath. POINTER: Want to know what your breath smells like? Lick the back of your hand, wait a few seconds, and take a sniff. Like what you smell? If not, it is time to either revamp your oral routine or visit a dentist.
- Shower a minimum of once a day, and invest in luxurious soaps and body washes to fragrantly cleanse your skin. I also suggest investing in a good body scrub to exfoliate dead skin and leave you body soft and radiant.
- Set aside one day of the week to pamper yourself at home, give yourself a facial, manicure, pedicure, and wax or shave your legs and bikini area.
- Keep a emergency kit at your place of employment for those after work events. You kit should include: wipes, deoderant, a small toothbrush, toothpaste, mints, a comb, a brush, mirror, nail file, scented lotion, mascara, lipgloss, lipstick, and blotting powder or paper.
- A woman should have at least 2 different types of fragrances in her arsenal: A light flowery daytime scent, and a deep sensual evening scent.
Skin Deep: “Great canvases come in all colors.”
- A flawless look cannot be pulled off with skin that has been neglected or abused. The better your skin looks, the less you have to invest in cosmetics.
- Moisturize your skin on a regular basis to keep it soft and supple.
- Nicely shaped eyebrows are essential to properly framing your face. Have a professional wax or tweeze them to keep them groomed and neat.
- Invest in quality skin products that are tailored to your skin type and condition.
- Use sunscreen to prevent premature aging, wrinkles, and age spots.
- Exfoliate your skin at least 2-3 times a week to keep it glowing and healthy looking.
- Remove all makeup, grime, etc. before bed. Baby wipes are great for doing this.
Haute Hair: “A short but fierce hairstyle, is better then long hair with no style.”
- Regardless of how you choose to style your hair, make sure it looks healthy, shiny, and neat. POINTER: If you have sideburns…trim them.
- Treat your hair as if it is made of stands of silk. Do not neglect, abuse, or fail to maintain it.
- Invest in quality hair products that suit your hair type and condition. Learn the proper use of these products
- Have one or two quick, reliable, but sleek hairstyles for bad hair days. Stock up on cute hair accessories like head bands, scarves, brooches, and flowers.
- If you are going to wear fake hair, make sure it blends seamlessly with your real hair and is of impeccable quality.
Nails: You can tell a lot about a person by how well kept their nails are.”
- Keep nails clean, polished, and shiny.
- Do not…by any means…keep chiped nail polish, broken nails, or unfilled acrylics on your hands.
- You do not need to frequent a nail salon all the time for manicures and pedicures to look put together. Invest in nail polish and supplies and maintain your own nails at home. POINTER: Olive oil makes an amazing cuticle oil.
- In between pedicures, use a pumice stone to exfoliate feet, and keep them soft. POINTER: Soaking your feet in milk softens dead skin. If you follow this with a luxurious moisturizer and cover with cotton socks overnight, you feet will be nice and soft in the morning.
- Invest in quality make-up. If you must go cheap, restrict these purchases to lipstick, lipgloss, eyeliner, and mascara. Items like foundation, eyeshadow, blush, and powder should cost a little more. “Cheap” makeup tends to have a lot of “white dust” in it and typically finishes ashy and dry.
- Wear whatever colors that work best for you, your skin type, and tone. Play up your best feature.
- When wearing everyday makeup, never over do it. If you are going to wear a bright eye shadow, tone down the lip color. If you are going to don a bold lip color, wear a neutral eyeshadow. Only wear a bright eye and bold lip during your next Broadway performance. POINTER: If you really want your eyeshadow color to pop, a primer is key. An added benifit is that a good primer decreases eyeshadow creasing, and makes the color last longer.
- A basic makeup routine should consist of eyeliner, mascara, and lipgloss.
- Always get a professional makeup consultation at a high-end department store to help you match your foundation.Places like Nordstrom’s and Sephora are great because the staff are experienced and trained makeup artist, and many times the consultations are free.
Clothing: “Dress like you want to make a good first impression everyday. You never know who you might run into.”
- Starting from scratch? Purchase staples that you can use to mix-and-match. Once you’ve got the basics, then you can add more colorful and daring pieces. POINTER: Be picky! Only buy what you love!
- You do not have to invest tons of money into clothing to look good, however make sure you spend just enough money to assure a quality, well-made garment that will last over time.
- Make sure your clothes are clean and free from stains, and holes. Repair or discard clothes with loose or missing buttons/snaps/closures, hanging threads, open seams and snags. Discard mismatched socks, and old stockings. Donate items that are out of style or are heavily worn. POINTER: It is almost impossible to develop a frumpy appearance when you get rid of all your old and tattered clothes.
- Invest in a quality iron and learn to press your clothes correctly.
- Find and build a relationship with a good tailor. Many women fall in between sizes and need a tailor to get that perfect fit.
- Wear clothes that look good on your body type and size and accentuate your best features. POINTER: YOUR style fits YOUR body.
- Invest in a full length mirror so that you are able to inspect your outfit from head-to-toe before you leave the house. Sometimes pieces of clothing look great separate, but disjointed together.
- Start a scrapbook with ideas and articles on fashion. This will allow you to identify your likes and what you aspire to be, and will help you create your own style.
- Do not ignore essential items like stockings, socks, and undergarments.
Shoes Galore: “Let someone walk a day in your shoes…and prove to them how life is so much more fun in stilettos!”
- Every IT Girl should have at least one pair of flats, tennis shoes, pumps, sandals, and sexy stilettos. POINTER: The easiest way to be That IT Girl is to have unique and stylish shoes.
- Inspect your shoes/boots. Is the leather rubbed off? Are there salt marks? Scuffs? Do they shine? Are your heels or toes sticking to far out from the front or back of the sandal? If you answered yes to any of these question…it’s time to buy new shoes.
- I know we all love them, but PLEASE get rid of those old, comfy, dirty shoes that always make their way out to the public eye. They need to be thrown out with this week’s trash and replaced.
- Do not forget to scrape that giant “CLEARANCE” price tag off the bottom of your shoe.
- Make sure your shoes smell good. You do not want to die of embarrassment if you ever have to take them off.
- If your heels tend to wear down unevenly, go to a shoe repair place and have them put taps on the soles. These are typically less then $10 and prevent your heels from wearing away, therefore allowing you to get more wear out of your shoes in the long run.
Belts, Bags, & Baubles: “Oh my!”
- Use handbags, clutches, belts, shoes, hair accessories, and jewellery to liven up your outfit.
- Add some spunky tights to your wardrobe.
- A decent black handbag is essential to your wardrobe. POINTER: If you are wearing a really basic outfit, a funky bright bag can make you look effortlessly stylish.
- Reserve the very expensive handbags to ones that will match multiple outfits in your wardrobe. Buy cheaper ones if you need to match only 1 or 2 outfits.
- Nevery carry the same bag with everything. You will prematurely wear the bag out and it says a lot when you take the time to expertly coordinate you bag with your outfit.
Pretty Personals: “Only wear undies and pajamas that make you feel fabulous.”
- Invest in quality bras, panties, and nighties.
- Get fitted for a bra at least every year. Your bra size can change with weight gain and loss, pregnancy, and age.
- Do EVERYTHING in your power to hide bra-straps and pantylines, including safety pinning bra-straps to your top, investing in strapless and racer-back bras, seamless underwear and thongs. POINTER: Clear bra-straps are NOT an option.
- Keep your lingerie draw smelling good by inserting a strip of paper sprayed with your favorite fragrance into the back of the drawer.
- Exercise for 30 minutes at least 2-3 days per week. Incorporate mild weight training to keep muscles toned, and decrease risk of osteoporosis. POINTER: Invest in decent workout clothes. Not only are they durable, but they are typically a lot cuter then working out in sweat pants, flannel pants, etc. Look for materials that claim to be breathable.
- Eat plenty of green leafy vegetables, fruits, whole grain, and lean meats. Keep alcohol, caffine, and sugar intake to a minimum.
- Drink plenty of plain, filtered water a day. POINTER: Take your weight (in pounds) and divide it in half. The number you get is the amount of water in ounces that you should be consuming on a daily basis.
Great Houskeeping: ” One of the biggest fashion faux pas is to step out of the house looking fabolous on the outside, and your house is in utter dissaray on the inside.”
- Dedicate time each day to tidy your home. This is a lot easier then doing a major cleaning every other month.
- Organize your closet, drawers, and jewelry box. It is so much easier to be put together your look if you have easy access to all of your clothes, shoes, accessories, and makeup.
- Create a list of daily chores to complete during the week so that you can dedicate your weekends to having fun.
Ovens Are Not for Storage: “Every house in the world, from sprawling mansions, to one bedroom shacks, come with an oven for a reason.”
- Every woman should know how to cook basic meals to feed herself and her loved ones.
- If you are challenged in the kitchen, take cooking classes or ask a friend to teach you how to make basic dishes.
- Keep your house stocked with matching plate, cup and silverware sets.
- Be prepared to entertain guest at all times. Stock your refrigerator and pantry with water, wine, cheese, and fingerfoods that you can easily find in the freezer section of your local grocery store.
Do you have a tip or pointer on how to become That IT Girl? Contact me to tell me what’s on your mind.